Living on borrowed philosophy
If you live by a borrowed philosophy you're on borrowed time.
A good deal of the Relationshit that I experience comes from living by a borrowed philosophy that was not created with me in mind or updated to include me. You can call it philosophy, moral code, life principles or the laws of life it's all the same to me.
No matter what it's called the one with the pen in his or her hand is the only person that it is perfect for.
We receive information everyday all day about who we are, how we feel and what we want or don't want. That's more than enough information to start writing your own life principles in your own words based off of your values. Don't worry they'll change as you change.
If this scares you, ask yourself why you value the insights of others above your own when it comes to how you operate and or why are you afraid of the freedom to choose your own. That's a great place to start.