Define it! Whatever "it" is.
Gurl, define it for yourself!
Do you realize you can have a whole conversation with someone using the same word and be talking about something completely different? If you can't define it then you can't express it in a way that "it" can be fulfilled, executed, delivered or understood.
Love is such a vague word….so is respect, trust, safety, security, commitment, and many other words we use to describe what we value, desire or need. How much Relationshit have you gone through simply because your definition was clearly not the same as theirs time and time again?
Define "it", whatever "it" is, and then tweak the definition until your life reflects the essence of what "it" means to you.